People can be held together for decades by lethargy, fear, mutual helplessness, or economic dependency, in marriages that are, to my mind, empty shells.
"David Olson of the University of Minnesota, who has studied over 15,000 married couples, recently said that 50% of married people will never be happy, unless they get unusually good therapy.
Other researchers agree ; about 30% of marriages are "empty shells"--little love, little talk, little joy. . . . if you married someone with a totally different view about life.
Only about 25% of couples have "really good marriages." The remaining 25% could achieve a good marriage if they got therapy and/or really worked on obtaining the necessary skills via training or marriage enrichment (or, you can add, self-help). . . . ."Olson believes the needed skills and characteristics are: communication skills, conflict resolution skills, compatible personality, agreement on values and religion, and good sex."
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